It's Ok To Be Alone

I spend a lot of time alone and I'm ok with that. Some people don't understand, some friends have pointed it out over and over, some people are amazed that I can go out and do things alone. Sometimes people will say it as though it's a bad thing, which it isn't at all. Often more than not, people tend to correlate being alone to also being lonely. Being alone doesn't mean you're a lonely person, as loneliness is a negative state of mind. 

For as long as I can remember, I've always been very comfortable being alone. I've never been one to have a big group of friends, only ever a few close friends at a time so I was never always around lots of people. Growing up, I was never hugely social but I was always a bit of a homebody, which I still am. More times than I should have, I've cancelled plans so that I can just stay in on an evening alone. Not that I don't have friends, I have brilliant friends and spend a lot of time with them, but they also know that I like to be alone. Same as when I'm in a relationship, it's nice spending time with the other person as much as it's being alone.

Being comfortable alone is something I'm proud of because a huge amount of people feel this way. If I want to do something but everyone else is busy, I'll do it alone. If I want to travel to a different country at a certain time and no one else can make it, then I'll go alone. If I didn't get up and out alone, then I would end up spending too much time indoors and would go stir crazy, just like everyone else would. Travelling alone is one of my favourite things. I get to go to the countries I want to visit, I get to do whatever I want to do during the day without having to consider someone else and to do it at my own pace. 

If you're the same or have ever felt the same way, it's ok. It's ok to be alone, it's ok to be lonely and it's ok to be alone without being lonely.

When I started to write this late on Sunday night, I stopped writing to come back to it. On Monday morning, I woke up with my weekly email from Superlatively Rude talking about her new post, which is on the same subject. You should all go read Loneliness/Aloneless because Laura is a brilliant writer, one of my favourites in fact.

Luce x